How to stop overthinking - and why we overthink in the first place

Overthinking is a common subject and I’m thinking if you are reading this, you are struggling with it, don’t worry I think we all do, also I’m chuffed to tell you I know there’s a simple solution to stopping it. Its important that we do some reviewing inside of us and in our business on a regular basis, because we are forever changing and our needs and wants change and evolve with time. Which can be why we start to overthink in certain areas of our life. I believe my reflection on the topic will be able to give you some guidance on how to stop overthinking and the reasons behind why we overthink in the first place.

The reasons why we overthink

Overthinking essentially leads us to doubting ourselves which then leads to procrastination. We then stop doing the things we are meant to be, because we are lacking clarity in our journey. The reason for lacking clarity could be that the real lack we have is in our belief system or our journey moving forward for our life. The clarity in the how, in terms of where you're going, your business, where it's going, your goals, where they're going and your desires, what you truly desire. But more so the belief you can have what you desire or actually get to where we want too causing us to overthink!

So the flip side of having clarity in those things, but if you're not going for it and you are overthinking it, it is because you don't believe that you could get those things. So the intention can be there, but the belief system is lacking. So what I want to explain to you is that it’s almost a journey of going forward and a journey of going backward at the same time.

The first steps of overcoming overthinking

The first thing we have to do, as human beings, if we truly want to dive into our purpose, find clarity and not overthink, is that we need a thorough path. That means a lot of work of facing our own selves. Moving through the places of fear and judgement, ultimately taking courage. Judgement to ourselves, fear, worry, lack, all come from everything we've ever been told, seen, thought and heard about ourselves or our environments.

So that's the backwards work, but the thing is that we can't go forwards without showing up for the backward things first. It’s like your computer drive for you, we need to rewrite it. We have to honour that, otherwise you will never move forward. This is why we almost get stuck in overthinking, stuck in procrastination, stuck in all those things. It takes time to understand your path going forward but the overthinking stops when we have rewrote the belief system from the past.

But when I work with this with my clients it’s truly what takes them on their journey. And I promise you when we have clarity in where we are going and why we're going there, we start to uncover our purpose. I believe our purpose has been really over complicated too. And I am coming to terms with that at the moment after working with clients looking at theirs and their company’s, because purpose feels like this big thing but it truly varies for every individual.

The way that we show up every day, once we've uncovered all of these things, and we've really rewired the past, the computer system, that back belief stuff, it does give us clarity and we can see our purpose and we just don't have to overthink what that is and what that looks like.

Finding and living through our purpose despite our societal doctrine

Purpose is different for everybody. It really is, but I do truly believe that everybody has one. And I do truly believe that it's almost the thing we're lacking in this Western world, because we have been conditioned to exchange our time for money to then be able to do the things that we like. 

We are led to believe that that is where we can attract the things that we want to have. Things like nice holidays or the things that make us fulfilled. Or even in our passions, we feel like that's where passion comes in or our hobbies come in.

But when you truly find that clarity in your journey and you exchange that for money, you see how you are then in a place of freedom and abundance. You are truly fully working out your true self and your passions, cause there's nothing you need to exchange it for. But the thing is that is where the lack of the belief system comes in because we overthink it as human beings because we have been conditioned too.

We also look back at the past, that computer system and we subconsciously make decisions or thoughts based on what we have seen of been through prior. Making it the easy decision to believe that we can't have a life fully on our terms. Because when our higher self, heart mixed with the gut craves these paths in our business or personal life mixed with the pessimistic computer system (that is there to protect us- the ego)- we overthink.

Overcoming our conditioning and how to move forward in our journey

This is exactly what I specialise in as mentor looking through everybody's journey last year. I know that's truly how I've helped them. Truly, more than anything else. So if you are truly looking for clarity, you want to stop the process of overthinking and you really want to tap into your belief system. To start believing that you can, and you are deserving of the things that are deep-rooted in your heart or your soul you truly can.

You're tired of showing up as someone else, or you're tired of sitting in that place of kind of jealousy or envy when you look at other people's journeys and you think “ Oh, I wish I could do that. I think I could do that. Oh, I don't know.” And then we go into the left-hand brain and ask ourselves “Okay, well, what qualifications would that mean I need?”- overcomplicating the system because we again have been conditioned too.

Or we go into cognitive dissonance when we convince ourselves that actually it's not that easy because I've got this, this and this, on maybe I'll put it on the back burner and do it another time. If I'm talking to you, then connect with me because we could be divine for one another and I could help you overcome these thoughts and challenges, and finally embark on your own journey in your purpose.

I hope that helps and I really just hope it makes you start to unravel and understand that process of why you are doing those things. And really, if you're not looking for a mentor, trust in yourself and trust in what you're doing already, and trust in that process and taking accountability to do the work moving forward, but also doing the work looking and moving backwards.

Love always,

Laura xx