I want you to win, and I know that in order to share what I know, what I have been through, my up levelling lessons, I have to be vulnerable.

Last year, I felt a lot of shame around things that didn’t go to plan. I lost a lot in every aspect; it was my most challenging year to date, and that was hard on my ego and my heart. Every year, I write down what I learned to really remember what I need to do differently and well to actually learn the lesson I am being shown to avoid repeating it. This year, 'Let go of the shame; it’s blocking your blessings' made the whiteboard.

If there is any part of you that questions when will this get easier? The true belief to trust that everything will work out? How to gain deeper strength to expand more in your decisions and an ability to feel at ease to trust in bigger goals? Let me guide you with my learnings.

So, we are aware we are only given the same result over and over if we are not learning. But where I want to help you more is this truly isn’t in direct correlation to you personally, how hard you are working, your skills, abilities, gifts, or how things have worked previously. Which can feel so unfair at times, confusing, and despairing. We can feel helpless, silently embarrassed, and this can then trigger fear-based beliefs of feeling like the victim, insane worry, anxiety, and doubt of our abilities, direction, and believing maybe it's the information to reaffirm your dark thoughts that you are in fact the imposter or maybe not quite ready to pursue this yet, the temptation to hold on to old familiar things. I should maybe re-evaluate and ask for less or go smaller. Maybe you are not quite deserving of everything, but the truth is you are, you are just growing, and how I got out of this cycle was by learning.

This is exactly why you are still being shown the exact same result because you are not learning. It has no reflection on you. You have made it about you, and the cycle continues. The cycle of lack “you do everything you think you are meant to and you don’t get the results you want; you react with your shadow fear-based beliefs.”

You are not being given what you want because there is still a deep-rooted belief it will make contributions to your value, worth, and validation. You are letting outside situations determine this; your reactions prove this, by the lack it is making you feel. How can I tell you it’s not about you and your ability? Because when we are in a state of lack, we will attract it, regardless of what you can offer. The intuition and heart dulls because your ego mind will panic kick in and try to control, leading you to make fear-based decisions. When we lead with the heart and true passion, we get what we desire. What is there in those wants are meant for you and it is part of your purpose, but you have to make space to believe that too. I know this. I know this from my life lessons. From everything I have built and manifested, from what I have seen my clients do when the energy of intention was in full alignment for them. Ask yourself if this is something you are experiencing right now, would you make the same move, think the same, use the same words, have the same conversations, make the same decisions in your life right now if you already had the thing, life you want?

See where this lesson gets trickier is learning as time moves by in life, we become different versions of ourselves, and as you know, my definition of purpose is to live through your deepest desires and truth at that very point in your life. To be brave enough to live as the future version of you now rooted in your values. This is what you have to honour, to know and surrender to, the uncomfortable decisions or situations life gives you when you know in your gut you need to cut ties, cut your losses, let go of a way of communication, a relationship, a belief about yourself, a location, a business strategy because your values, wants, beliefs, needs, discernment are constantly evolving. No matter what you have built, how people have validated you for it previously or how inspiring you are. It’s the only way we create deep happiness, joy, and attract more abundance because you are being true to our authentic needs.

We often think I will feel at peace, be safe or I’ll be ok when I get X… a relationship, things, the next business goal, money. But peace has to come first to attain the things we think will give us peace. A state of peace will bring you want you want, Ironic isn’t it. Please trust me on this one. Peace is an inside job, one that is measured on how much we love and choose ourselves beyond any judgment or fear, any event that happens outside of us. It is an extension of our own trust for ourselves. Trust being our inner core strength to not require validation from anything externally to ask for help but to know truly you will always have the answers or if you don’t you will become a deeply stronger version of you when you surrender to depending on outside sources and trust in it will come. As scary as that seems strangely it’s where we feel the most power and sense of love and abundance it will come in the state of peace regardless of what is happening outside of you because you are being brave enough to sit with yourself through the discomfort or the unknown. Another deep lesson of last year is it no one’s job to save you, love you, or support you. That’s yours. It’s all the things that make us connective to another and enriches life but the nuance is in the word ‘need’ the fine line between need and want. The key is to love, love without condition that includes expectations. Love with acceptance in situations, in people and your own life. Except we evolve and try to love with compassion, its much more peaceful for you. It seems funny talking about love and business in the same paragraph but they are not that different you know. 8 years in and being apart of so many other journeys myself. When we create businesses from our true passions to have fulfilling but also deep rooted transformative results in our goals with expansive wealth with ease and flow. It all starts with a deep rooted foundation of trust. When we hold it as business owners we can build, innovate and not fear any pivots or growth we embark on. What we are meant to be doing in this lifetime or particular moment in business get laser sharp. Imposter syndrome and doubt leaves, clarity comes.

We often think I will feel at peace, be safe, or I’ll be ok when I get X… a relationship, things, the next business goal, money. But peace has to come first to attain the things we think will give us peace. A state of peace in a fearful situation will bring you what you want. Ironic isn’t it. Please trust me on this one. Peace is an inside job, one that is measured on how much we love and choose ourselves beyond any judgment or fear, any event that happens outside of us. It is an extension of our own trust in ourselves. Trust being our inner core strength to not require validation from anything externally, to ask for help but to know truly you will always have the answers or if you don’t, to work on that part of you to become stronger in learning how too. You will become a deeply stronger version of you when you surrender to depending on older outside sources that have kept you safe to date and trust in it will come. As scary as that seems, strangely it’s where we feel the most power and sense of love and abundance. Deep connected trust to ourself. It will come in the state of peace regardless of what is happening outside of you because you are being brave enough to sit with yourself through the discomfort or the unknown. Another deep lesson of last year is it’s no one’s job to save you, love you, or support you. That’s yours. It’s all the things that make us connective to another and enriches life but the nuance is in the word ‘need, being depend,’ it depletes your trust to make decisions from your heart. The key is to love, love without condition that includes expectations. Love with acceptance in situations, in people, and your own life. Except we evolve and try to love with compassion; it’s much more peaceful for you. It seems funny talking about love and business in the same paragraph, but they are not that different, you know. Eight years in and being a part of so many other journeys myself it where when we are in this state success comes in abundance. When we create businesses from our true passions to have fulfilling but also deep-rooted transformative results in our goals to serve with ease and flow is where expansive wealth comes too. It all starts with a deep-rooted foundation of trust. When we hold it as business owners, we can build, innovate and not fear any pivots or growth we embark on. What we are meant to be doing in this lifetime or particular moment in business gets laser sharp. Imposter syndrome and doubt leave, clarity comes.

See we cannot cheat our gut or intuition, well for only as long as we can put up with cheating our true self. But more so why is it important we don’t? It will block your blessings, from what you really want like I have explained above and just give us constant resistance or hardship along with sleepless nights. I promise when we follow our inner knowing it is how we create more love, peace, wealth, aligned opportunities, and relationships in our lives that are meant for us right now in this chapter, our true desires, and not ones of external validation of something you still haven’t quite healed. Even though it may feel like to begin with it is the harder route, more vulnerable and lonely, it is the only route for your true peace, to acquire what you truly want and happiness. See, we can’t cheat ourselves when we lay silent at night in that small dark window of quiet or that anxious feeling when we wake up and procrastinate what we know we really need to work on. Do you feel peace and rich in the feeling you believe you will feel when you get the next thing you desire? This will be your indicator of where your power currently is, is it with you or in the opinion of others? Is it in the fear of trying to calculate the future? How people might judge you if things don’t go to plan for you? The embarrassment of failing?

If that’s what you are experiencing that is why the cycle above continues you are not seeing what the cycle is teaching you, you are internalising it. You are letting external events value your worth and take your peace. Let go of the judgment towards yourself, the fear of appearing less than to the people you love, that care you have at possibly not succeeding in the ways you wish too. Let go of the control. You are safe because you are in your truth, and that is enough. Everyone that is meant to be in alignment with you for just that very version of you will be. If you are struggling with this, Ask yourself quietly why? And why again until you get to the root. You’ll get there if you answer truthfully without judgment. When you do, and you are not in lack to your mind. What you want will come; I know this is hard to believe as easy as that but it is true, the cycle will stop. Your perspective moves, and you gain the trust you thought you would find in the things you are working towards. Your blessings appear.

Let go of the judgment, my love, It’s time to live and thrive in your truth and your dreams.

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